Fall of the House...

Spring 2004...Situation now at fever pitch...still in car...wife stops paying rent to mother...her own mother now at house...has cancer..still calling shots..Stopped feeding into the verbal sparring at least ethnic wise...Racial slurs from both sides affecting children...Stupid and immature...now begin by using mythological reference instead...She is now dubbed "Harpy"...Still hear the word "Honky" consistently from both wife and mother...Not necesarrily in reference to myself but still in use...Boss is still taking his little side trips with girlfriend...workload doubles...Now doing routes AND doing his paperwork...Still on 19 hr a day schedule...Supervisor calls while I am in office...Out cold, didn't hear the phone...Boss charges in grabs me out of chair, pins me up against wall (Boss=@250 lbs goes to gym every day Me=140 lbs semi-malnourished)...Can't break loose...Place my thumbs in his eye sockets, he releases...One look at my face and he backs into a corner and tells me to calm down....Girlfriend begins recieving phone calls...Quickly turns off phone whenever it rings...Go to pick her up one day, she has no idea I'm there and she is arranging to meet someone else that night...Accusations fly, this too, soon will end...Mother loses house because wife wasn't paying rent...Bank forcloses everyone forced to relocate...

Summer 2004 Still at job doing paperwork, discover that boss has been submitting payroll with myself marked as working five days and himself working seven...Still takes orders from wife...Corporate comes in numerous times, not enough evidence nothing is done...Break-up with girlfriend...Wife's mother moves to Virginia...beats cancer...See ad for halliburton...driving trucks in Iraq for 100k a year....Wife is moving to Virginia with kids...So walk off job after submitting resume to KBR (Halliburton subsidiary)...HQ in Houston, figure I should go there to follow up...Wife finds out I quit job and now files for child support, wouldn't apply while I was working because she wouldn't get as much...Arrive in Houston, friend is supposed to wire money...Nope, never sends it...Now in Greyhound station with very little money...Forced to return to New York with head hung low in shame...Take up residence in mother's apartment with her my brother and my sister...I am informed landlord cannot know I am there, so I remain inside, lest she catch me leaving...Wife brings kids by to say goodbye to mother, aunt and uncle hates the fact that I am there too to say goddbye to kids...Kids are gone, job is gone,girlfriend is gone...Become a virtual hermit not setting foot outside for roughly five months...

Fall 2004 I am summoned to Virginia...wife has taken ill...her mothers cancer is back...they need help with kids...Go to Virginia stay until Decmeber or maybe January...Go back to New York...

Spring 2005 Taxtime, getting back final tax return need wifes signature to file...She says to come down to Virginia...File taxes sign divorce papers...Says if I give her $4000 out of the $8000 she will tell child support to take $4000 off my arrears...Agreed...Go to Virginia again...Stay in motel for a few days kids pester her into letting me stay in son's room...Give the $4000...Sign divorce papers...Remind ex about agreement...Oh, no, I spoke to child support and they said I don't have to apply it to your debt...Conned again...Leave Virginia yet again...back to New York...Late springtime...Recieve phone call daughters been acting up (Wonder why?)...Get down here or she goes to group home or gets put on meds...Go back to Virginia...Stay this time...

Summer 2005 Exes mother's cancer gets worse...I have no license...ex has no license...She calls my sister to come down and help...Sister comes down has no money (Can't work because of epilepsy)...Ex refuses to lend her money to return to New York once my sister decides she has had enough abuse...Report to child support that I now reside in Virginia...Have a support hearing in New York in December...Hard to find a job here struggling to survive...Sleeping on floor in son's room...Ex and mother go out shopping everyday,sister chauffers...(No exaggeration)...

Fall 2005 Sister escapes back to New York...I call child support ask if I still have court date in New York...They call New York and say no, since I now live in Virginia the case up there will not be heard...I double check call New York family court recieve same respone...Have my sister, who has returned there, to check in person...Same answer...

Winter 2005 Uneventful...Until end of December...Recieve offical NYS court document saying that since I failed to appear(???) a default judgement has been issued against me...I now owe $646 a month for the past year and a half...They inform me the settlement is based on past income...Ex assures me I can go for a review when I get a job here...

Spring 2006 Get a job at warehouse...tell ex I am going for review...She reneges on deal says if I go for review she will throw me out of house...65% of my check now goes to child support...

(Example:This past pay period:Gross pay:628.40 Net pay after support, taxes, insurance and $18 for 401k:118.23)