Picture Time

So Sunday morning I go to the store bright and early to get a copy of the paper...Lo and behold my son's picture is pasted in the sports section...I go up to the Harpies aerie to show her...she looks and goes downstairs to show my son and my mother...I had been up all night posting footage of the game to youtube so I fell asleep while they were still passing the paper around...I wake up and try in vain to find the paper...it is NWTBF...Has anyone seen the paper with his picture? Yup, Harpy has it and she has claimed it for her own, once again proclaiming herself sole proprietor over anything which enters her domicile. What about me... I bought the dang paper...I'll make you a copy...No your mother has a copy you guys share it, this one is mine...I'm not being petty mind you...I can get another copy...it's the principle behind it...If she were the one who had bought the paper and I had taken it, it would be akin to a mortal sin...but because of her false sense of entitlement what she gets is hers and everyone else can suffer...and what everyone else gets is also hers and that's that...there is no argument, there is no question, she has exclusive right to anything and everything she wants no matter who pays for or obtains it...

The Rental

To pick up from last week...we managed to secure a rental car...unfortunately, in spite of the fact that I doled out the cash, Harpy had to procure said vehicle...Which means...that's right...Harpy tries once again to claim sovereignty over all others in matters car related...i.e., I'm the driver so I should get to listen to whatever I want and everyone else can f*** off, I want to stop here for food but we aren't going to stop there for you to pick up a pair of gloves, in fact if she doesn't feel it is beneficial to her no one goes anywhere...We get to where we are going...Watch my son's team win the championship and head to the nearest buffet place with the team...I am forced to dole out even more cash to cover the five members of our party...four of whom I have no reservations about paying for, mind you, but number five of course has said I'll receive the money back from her dinner...I'd hold my breath but the shade of blue I would turn doesn't go with my eyes and I'd be holding my breath for a long time...Then the gas money issue arises...she has none...okay no problem, it was for my son so it's money well spent...however I will only put enough in to get us from point a to point b and back again...I carefully calculated the amount and bought just enough...I knew that if I bought more she would abscond with the vehicle and spend money we could be using for the kids to make sure she had gas to drive around with her bf...So on Sunday the car sat in the driveway for the majority of the day...We were only allowed limited use of it and only if my mother was going to the store for Harpy...

Thermals

Okay...where were we...Last Thursday I purchase a set of thermals for my daughter...we will be going somewhere on Saturday and it is supposed to be cold...She knows if harpy finds out I have bought her the thermals a fight over misspending of my funds (buying stuff for the kids directly instead of putting the fundage in Harpaic pockets) will result in Inquisition style questioning...So we decide Mommy Dearest should not find out about them...Well guess who finds out...yup...Harpy...so my daughter tells her a friend from school bought them for her...Harpy begins to chastise the child proclaiming that her acceptance of the "alleged" gift is tantamount to proclaiming that she is a charity case..As punishment for accepting the thermals from "her friend" a Harpaic declaration is issued...a decree which states that the aforementioned offender (my daughter) will receive naught more than underwear and thermals for Christmas...So let's see YOU won't purchase them but no one else is allowed to either...This is reminiscent of the coat episode which occurred not too long ago wherein my son was given one of the four winter coats my mother brought home form her last trip North...upon seeing my son in the jacket she shrieked in horror "Where did you get that?"...my son informed her that his grandmother had given it to him..."Take it off!"...upon seeing him hesitate to obey her order she screamed.."Take that f***ing jacket off..I didn't buy it so you can't wear it...you haven't worn any of the jackets I bought you and I'll be damned if you're going to wear one someone else gave you..." The interesting thing here is she hasn't bought him a coat for a loooong time so his winter coats are old...Now the funny thing about this is an amazing contradiction which occurred after the initial coat argument..My daughter had taken a liking to a particular coat from the four my mother had brought and nothing was said about her wearing it...Right now you're probably sitting there saying..."But...um...er...she yelled about the thermals...and your son's coat...why would...uh...?" Stop wondering, this is an Harpaic phenomenon known as "If I can make it into a reason to yell I will contradict every other thing I have done or said"

Let me cite some prime examples:

To son: All jobs require a urine test

To son later in same conversation: Your uncle didn't need to take a pee test

To my mother upon hearing she had used some sports cream on sons sore shoulder:You don't put anything on my son without clearing it through me first, the stuff you used has such and such and if they test him his sports career is over (It contained no such thing)

Fact: Harpy has used sports cream on him which DOES contain a substance which can cause a false positive reading

To daughter: Your friend has no future because his mother lives in her mothers house (???)

Fact: After we broke up Harpy lived with her mother until her mothers demise in 2008(?)

To son: You have a poor judgement of character when it comes to friends

Fact:She has introduced my children to an ex-con who was selling my brother drugs, one of her boyfriends pulled a knife when he saw my son approaching the car, her current bf who buys drugs for his mother and insists on pointing out the place where he buys them to my kids and their friends

To me: The kids are the way they are because of you and your family

To daughter: I was the same way you were at 14 and I'll go "all ghetto" on your ass just like I used to when I was 14 if you wanna bring it..

The last one is the most intriguing of all because while proclaiming my family as the problem

A.) She fully admits to having acted the exact same way at this age

B.) Due to her and her mother's obsessive need for control me and my family have had a limited influence on the children

C.) This behavior started occurring while she was here in Va and I was still in NY and was the reason she called me to come down in the first place...

I was going to cover more topics in this post but I think this is enough for this one...

Into the Abyssal Maw

The Harpy (aka the Lich Queen) will be deposed from her throne...I hope..both kids want to tell people what's been going on...The only thing that concerns me is any feeling of guilt they might feel afterwards...and retribution on behalf of their mother...I will try to keep them from having to talk too much with the audio I have stockpiled since our last attempt at rebellion...If all goes well this final cataclysm will knock the Harpy down from her lofty perch...If not than the gates will open and all hell will break loose...I have already warned the kids once the ball starts rolling we will be unable to stop it and if we fail everyone will have to face her wrath...

Is anyone even looking at this page or am I wasting my time?

All of a sudden...

The is cozying up to my son for the first time in months she has him upstairs in "her part" of the house...(The house is divided into two sections:Her section(upstairs)...which has a heater and an electric blanket...a computer...lights in both rooms...and is relatively warm... Me and the kids section(downstairs) which has one heater for three rooms not including the kitchen and the bathroom...low wattage lamps in two rooms and no light source in the living room...one computer for three people...and is cold unless you are sitting right by the heater) Anyway since he is going to state she has decided that he should come up and watch football with her...she has also decided that she has to find transportation to the state game...transportation which should she decide not to use her van leaves me and my mother out of the plans...Harpy questioned the feasibility of using her car to get there...and in the process revealed yet another not too surprising revelation..she says her car makes it to Williamsburg when her and her bf go to the movies...Which is roughly a 30 mile trip..when questioned by my daughter about her going out to the movies or wherever with her bf her response was simple "We'll go to Williamsburg in January when I get my refund..."...Plus she will be buying herself a new laptop with her refund and a new car with her refund...I have yet to hear her once mention the kids when she talks about her refund..My son's mattress has springs poking up out of it and she has yet to get him a new one...my daughter has nothing with which to entertain herself except this computer which doesn't work that well and a TV which barely has any reception..I would buy them things except my paychecks are way too small to buy them more than snacks at the store or random little things they want that aren't too expensive...My daughter used to have a stereo she could play CD's with but Harpy demolished it when my daughter refused to wake up at 10:30 P.M. to clean her room sometime in September...

FREE In home therapy.....

The psychiatrist suggested that we might give this a shot...I figured why not? Waited for the therapist to call me...after seven days of phone tag find out that they had gotten a hold of Harpy first...and she turned it down...when I questioned her about it i was told "I don't want those f-ing people here and it's my house so case closed..." However she wants her to go back to the psychiatrist so he can put her back on the drugs...